I was listening to a past EntreLeadership podcast on my morning walk a few days ago and heard a guest co-host named Rory Vaden say, “Peace is about having a longer-term perspective…Any problem in relation to today is a big problem. Any problem in relation to our life-span, though, is a small problem, and any problem in relation to eternity is no problem.”
That’s the truth, and having such a perspective really helps alleviate our fears. Having a long-term perspective helps us slow down and take a step back so we can rationally address our fears and craft solutions to overcome those fears.
Just like we’ve taken time to write out our goals and write out our mission statement/core value, fears should be written out as well. Writing out our fears not only offers clarity, but it helps us determine whether our fears are justified and rational. Writing out our fears takes away the mystery and uncertainty of “what if” which is usually what is fueling our fears in the first place.
When we write out our fears we can then craft plans to overcome and work through those fears, negating the “what if” factor. Uncertainty gives way to intentionality which blows fears away.
Choose to Be Brave and Face Your Fears
Let’s write out our fears AND a solution or two to allay those fears. Allay means to reduce or put to rest—literally laying those fears aside. You can only lay something down that you’ve been able to identify, and writing out your fears does just that.
So, I’ll lay out some of my own fears and my workable solutions to allay those fear. (I invite you to share yours in the comments.)
- I fear that no one will ever read this blog and that it won’t take off the way I hope. But I can allay this fear by refusing to give in and to work hard each day to produce better, more-useful content than the day before.
- I fear that I’m in over my head and that I’m not qualified to speak on my chosen topics. But I can allay this fear by writing authentically and truthfully about what I do know and understand, and by staying intentional about my own growth.
- As an introvert, I fear being vulnerable in social situations and letting people get to know the real me—I fear being rejected. But I can allay this fear by giving of myself in a genuine manner—not working to craft relationships for what I can get out of them, but what I can give.
Those are just three of my very real fears that I am working on daily. I must continually work through them and beyond them to find the success and results I want in my life.
What are some fears holding you back from accomplishing your goals? Face them by sharing in the comments—and don’t forget to offer yourself a written solution as well.
Also published on Medium.
I’m Jeff M. Miller, and I help ordinary people who are stuck in a rut change their behaviors so they can be extraordinary. I’m an entrepreneur who retired from my full-time job in my early 40s to work from home. I’m a financial counselor, life coach, graphic designer, and passionate believer in helping others improve their lives a little more each day.
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