Before you launch into setting down your goals and start making plans on how to reach them, there’s another concept that needs to be understood and become a permanent part of your thinking. Don’t fall into the false philosophy of believing that life can be compartmentalized, that you can keep certain parts of your life completely separate from the other parts.
Living an incremental life is living through stages, not separated episodes—your life is a connected whole. Life stages are never compartmentalized. Just as your life has naturally flowed from birth through childhood into adulthood and beyond, so do your choices, actions, and experience. It’s foolish to think you can keep any part of your life separated from the rest. When you attempt to keep certain parts separated, your life begins to fragment and you start to feel frayed at the edges.
All of Your Life is Interconnected
Everything you’re involved in, every relationship, every decision, every action, every success and failure, every secret—all of them have a direct effect on everything else going on in your life. When you get a handle on this truth and keep it in the forefront of your mind, your goal-making and life planning process changes dramatically.
How will reaching your goal effect your relationships with your significant other, children, family, and friends? How will the journey toward your goal effect your career, or your mental and physical health? These and many more issues must be taken into consideration as you sit down to map our your goals.
So, for your vision and goals to have long-term positive impact, they must take into account every facet of your life, including but not limited to:
Notice that while each piece above may have a separate label, they’re all connected—all part of the same circle of your life.
As you sit down and begin to think through who you want to become, don’t forget to consider the impact your goals will have on your entire life, not only the parts that most closely associated with that goal. Next,we’ll get those goals put down on paper.
I’m Jeff M. Miller, and I help ordinary people who are stuck in a rut change their behaviors so they can be extraordinary. I’m an entrepreneur who retired from my full-time job in my early 40s to work from home. I’m a financial counselor, life coach, graphic designer, and passionate believer in helping others improve their lives a little more each day.